When my name and reputation were destroyed in 2010, piece by piece my online existence also fell apart.
First to go bye-bye was LinkedIn - which suddenly told me to 'contact admin about (my) account'. Traumatized and afraid as I was at that time, from the furious vulgarity of people responding as best they could to what they understood of my life situation ... I declined to contact LinkedIn admin.
Instead -- yes, exactly like a coward -- I walked away. Preferring to let the account go dormant and the chips of it - 500+ contacts, a group I'd founded and many others I'd joined - fall where they may ... as opposed to trying to explain and grovel and answer to another barrage of cyber harassment. This from LinkedIn, and their "admin" team - Who?? What? Blocked my account and why?
How dare they?
"They", LinkedIn, could only know and understand my situation far LESS than any of the human beings I was desperate to explain myself to, but could only end up groveling in front of, prostrating myself and walking (nay, make that running) away from.
Yes, like a coward.
But when you've fucked up and no one will give you the chance to explain things and/or make things right, and instead you're met at every turn with hysteria, screaming, profanity, violence ... and later, in large part DUE to all the screaming and ensuing hysteria, met with disdain, dismissiveness and distrust - and/or threatened and called names by absolute strangers because they believe what they read online, and what's online has destroyed your name, reputation and, that much further, your life ...
You BECOME a coward.
Or you introduce, or invent from scratch, a new persona -- someone to lend a clean name and slate, and a helping hand to get your phone calls and emails answered (pleasantly).
I thought about doing this for a minute ... Changing my name to start anew, while continuing trying to earn a living and building a business ("At least, you dumb shit, change the name of the business!" ... Hey, thanks, Dad!)
But then I "stumbledupon" one of my online scarlet letters -- it might've been Ripoff Report, or some other consumer "warning" website where my personal, birth-given name has likewise been sullied and etched for eternity ... for my dad; my mom and grandparents, brother, nephew, cousin, aunts and uncles, friends, social networks and (grand)kids to see, forever and always -- and it actually said there that I HAD changed my name, and was "operating" now as so-and-so.
First of all, Fucker (you know who you are) - I haven't changed my name at all!
Secondly, "operating"? CRIMINALS "operate" - you nasty, Abe Lincoln-looking, sick piece of work (you know who you are! How's life, Craig?) ... Despite what you thought, may still believe and successfully campaigned to lead the world to believe, JEFF GLOVSKY's not hiding.
And he isn't a "criminal".
First to go bye-bye was LinkedIn - which suddenly told me to 'contact admin about (my) account'. Traumatized and afraid as I was at that time, from the furious vulgarity of people responding as best they could to what they understood of my life situation ... I declined to contact LinkedIn admin.
Instead -- yes, exactly like a coward -- I walked away. Preferring to let the account go dormant and the chips of it - 500+ contacts, a group I'd founded and many others I'd joined - fall where they may ... as opposed to trying to explain and grovel and answer to another barrage of cyber harassment. This from LinkedIn, and their "admin" team - Who?? What? Blocked my account and why?
How dare they?
"They", LinkedIn, could only know and understand my situation far LESS than any of the human beings I was desperate to explain myself to, but could only end up groveling in front of, prostrating myself and walking (nay, make that running) away from.
Yes, like a coward.
But when you've fucked up and no one will give you the chance to explain things and/or make things right, and instead you're met at every turn with hysteria, screaming, profanity, violence ... and later, in large part DUE to all the screaming and ensuing hysteria, met with disdain, dismissiveness and distrust - and/or threatened and called names by absolute strangers because they believe what they read online, and what's online has destroyed your name, reputation and, that much further, your life ...
You BECOME a coward.
Or you introduce, or invent from scratch, a new persona -- someone to lend a clean name and slate, and a helping hand to get your phone calls and emails answered (pleasantly).
I thought about doing this for a minute ... Changing my name to start anew, while continuing trying to earn a living and building a business ("At least, you dumb shit, change the name of the business!" ... Hey, thanks, Dad!)
But then I "stumbledupon" one of my online scarlet letters -- it might've been Ripoff Report, or some other consumer "warning" website where my personal, birth-given name has likewise been sullied and etched for eternity ... for my dad; my mom and grandparents, brother, nephew, cousin, aunts and uncles, friends, social networks and (grand)kids to see, forever and always -- and it actually said there that I HAD changed my name, and was "operating" now as so-and-so.
First of all, Fucker (you know who you are) - I haven't changed my name at all!
Secondly, "operating"? CRIMINALS "operate" - you nasty, Abe Lincoln-looking, sick piece of work (you know who you are! How's life, Craig?) ... Despite what you thought, may still believe and successfully campaigned to lead the world to believe, JEFF GLOVSKY's not hiding.
And he isn't a "criminal".
No, don't you be short with me! And you, JW: you know who you are as well ... and if you continue to cyber stalk, trash talk, harass me or mail off missives to the Mrs. - or anyone else whose legal name is not Jeff Glovsky - you will fuel my ire!
The biggest fuck-up to come out of this mess has been YOUR reckless destruction and disregard of MY personal name and reputation. Toward that end, you're right: I am in denial. I deny your right to have permanently ruined them!
Little Craigy, JW and anyone else who followed suit and hysterically contributed to the damages inflicted ...
You aren't anonymous. We know who you are.
The biggest fuck-up to come out of this mess has been YOUR reckless destruction and disregard of MY personal name and reputation. Toward that end, you're right: I am in denial. I deny your right to have permanently ruined them!
Little Craigy, JW and anyone else who followed suit and hysterically contributed to the damages inflicted ...
You aren't anonymous. We know who you are.
Identity Crisis |